Today’s Publisher Note is based on an assertion that I have developed over time. For instants, most millennials who are parents – do not seem to understand that their actions manifest through their children’s behaviors. Children learn from observation, listening, and interacting with others. The parents are the first teachers, counselors, mentors, and spiritual leaders.
Their children mimic the behaviors that they see. They develop their understanding of the world and how to live in it from their first teachers, the parents/guardians. Then their learning is extended through their interactions with family members, friends, and others. Behaviors are learned and so are reactions to external stimuli (joy, anger, sadness, anxiety, and or depression) that others interject into our lives.
According to Watson (1913), a behavioral psychologist believed that all behavior is learned through conditioning. Thus if a child continually observes his mother engaged in an augment with his father, and when the fight is over, the father hits the mother because she has disagreed with him, the child then punches his sibling when they disagree with one another. The resulting learned behavior for the child is to fight when someone disagrees with them. In conclusion, model the behavior you want those who are observing you to see.
Moreover, Rivier University (2019), confirms that the study of behaviorism is the analysis of observable behavior. So I would suggest that parents monitor their behavior while in front of their children. Young people mimic behaviors that they see, so be very careful about losing your temper and displaying negative behaviors while your children look on. They are framing their personalities and adapting their responses to things that make them angry. Help them, model the behavior you want to see. Peace…
Today’s note is focused on the family. What is the family unit today? The mother, a senior who has grown children, whose children are adults and have children themselves. What constitutes the extended family? Are they the cousins, aunts, uncles, nieces, nephews, grandparents, close friends, and long time buddies? What comes with these titles and relationships? Do we diligently understand the responsibilities associated with being a member of a family?
Family members love one another regardless of our shortcomings or personal deficiencies, each family plays a vital role in how the overall unit functions. No member has the right to dismiss, ignore, abandon, or exclude another family member from any benefit shared by the entire family. Family benefits should include the right to assist one another when in need. If Aunt Sussie needs $1,000 and there are 10 working adults in the family unit, each should be willing to invest a $100.00 into Sussie’s financial deficient. She can repay each member their $100.00 over the next 10 months. So that everyone gets their investment back. Then when John needs $5,000 for a down payment on his new home, the 10 family members would need to contribute $500 each to assist him. Then once he’s in the property, John can borrow against the equity in his home to repay each family contributor their $500.00 investment.
Families are designed to be sustaining. They should be able to acquire property every year as a group, to ensure that each member of the adult family ends up with real estate for their individual family unit. That is what other cultures have been doing since the beginning of their invasion into this country. We are the native inhibitors of “Turtle Island is a name for the Earth or for North America, used by some Indigenous and First Nations people and by some Indigenous rights activists. The name is based on a common Indigenous creation story” (Turtle Island, the place we now call America). Think about that, a great number of people who have dark melanated skin have been misled for many generations. Most believe that they are from another continent (Europe, Asia, Africa, North America, South America, Australia, and Antarctica). And that they were sold into slavery. That is true for some (but not for the melanin people who were inherent to this land. What a distortion of the truth, generations of melanin people have been misled into believing that they are less than everyone else. I wonder why? Is it because people with melanin have been reared to ignore what is happening to them and around because strive is all that they should strive for. That way, the rich and elite will always have a volunteer workforce. All they had to do was practice the Willie Lynch theory, you know the one that manipulates melanin’s into hating each other, distrusting one another, even their mothers and fathers because they lack respect for themselves and others. I believe that the millennials may never have empathy for anyone else because self-preservation is paramount in their minds.
Like Fröhlich (2019), Author of the “East Africa’s forgotten slave trade” said, East Africans were sold as slaves by Muslim Arabs to the Middle East and other places via the Sahara desert and the Indian Ocean.” Most People of color (melanated people) don’t know their innate place of birth. They can’t trace their roots or the family history for more than four generations. See how far you can trace your family roots. What part of the world did you come from or are you indigenous to this great country, Turtle Island, the land of free bronze skin Indiana’s and Melaninated people.